Frendo Diem – Crush the Day
I have sort of intentionally sought out the most difficult path throughout my life. When a challenge presents itself, it’s typical for me to run headlong into it. In no way is this a “I conquer all!” statement. More often than not, I’m knocked flat on my ass. Defeat happens. My point though is I don’t shy away from adversity. To this point, I owe some apologies. I realized this today after my classes, why I find it so incomprehensible to understand why people won’t sign up for the open or a local crossfit competition or a weightlifting meet. It’s a desire to avoid adversity for some, to not challenge themselves for others, to not increase the risk of defeat for still others. Those are just about foreign concepts for myself. Not a brag because, again, I fail a LOT. I try though.
Is this a rant? I don’t actually know, post an answer for me. I apparently love tangents and digressions. Everyone should take a class with me where I shoot off into left field for a moment, i’m sure it’s entertaining if you have the patience. What are we getting ready for, handstand pushups? Let me tell you about quasars…
Enough of that little hiatus (digress!). Back to the point here. February of 2016 I was coaching at my first gym still. One of the coaches I had befriended goes on an annual ski/snowboard trip with his friends from DC to a different location each year. I love snowboarding but I had never gone anywhere outside of the little 200 foot hill that we have outside of town here at Perfect North. Jerome asked if I would like to join as they had a person drop out from the prior year so they had an open spot. I was terrified, intimidated. I immediately said yes. I went (Breckinridge, Colorado. Go if you haven’t been). I fell. A LOT. I was years behind that group in terms of experience on slopes. Know what though? By far the best vacation I’ve had. Take the plunge.
Flash forward to this February. The same group is going to Jackson Hole, WY. Minus the one guy I know outside of the ski trip. I’m not a social butterfly by any sense of the word. Again, scared of the actual trip as I don’t do well in social settings or with new people. I was also the first to respond (within ten minutes of getting the initial email) I’m IN.
This isn’t to say I’m not scared of anything. We all have fear. The difference is in how much we let it influence our decision making. It has taken years of seriously concentrating on it and self-evaluation. Why am I not doing something? Is it because I’m afraid of an aspect of it or of the outcome? I love snowboarding, so why haven’t I gone anywhere yet? I asked myself enough questions that I eventually ran out of excuses not to do it.
The most ridiculous reason I hear for someone not trying out a new endeavor is that they won’t be good at it. This is asinine. You won’t be stellar the very first time you do something?! NO SHIT. Crossfitters, stop telling me you can’t sign up for a weightlifting meet because you won’t do well. This is weak. So very weak. Did you wait until you could win the competition to sign up for a crossfit comp? Doubt it. And trust me, you looked bad then. You still did it though. I did, I assure you. You work out everyday doing the exact same movements and don’t stop to worry about what Joe Blow is thinking about your form. You have no clue how you’re going to respond to an event until you participate in said event.
The same applies to those that are physically capable of doing a crossfit comp and refuse to sign up. I ask people to because it’s FUN. It’s supposed to be. The vast majority of us started this just to LGN (look good naked. Come on people, don’t lie to me. You want to). We continued because it’s enjoyable. Saying you would hate it before even trying is absurd to me.
If you try it and don’t like it, fine. Acceptable reason to deny me. You should at least TRY though. I am so much more impressed by effort than I am by the result of it. You power cleaned your last set at BLAHBLAHBLAH weight? How good for you. Newbie over here just fought their ass off for the world’s longest squat clean at 50% of your weight. I’ll take that every single day over the “veteran” breezing through it.
What do you want to accomplish? What are you NOT accomplishing because fear of failure is holding you back? Want to run that first race? (I do this year. Someone join me signing up for a 10k somewhere) Are you not signing up for something because of hesitation to the amount of work you will have to put in for it? Hate to break it to you, but rarely is something worthwhile attained easily.
“And if ye cannot be saints of knowledge, then, I pray you, be at least its warriors. They are the companions and forerunners of such saintship.
I see many soldiers; could I but see many warriors! “Uniform” one calleth what they wear; may it not be uniform what they therewith hide!
Ye shall be those whose eyes ever seek for an enemy—for your enemy. And with some of you there is hatred at first sight.
Your enemy shall ye seek; your war shall ye wage, and for the sake of your thoughts! And if your thoughts succumb, your uprightness shall still shout triumph thereby!
Ye shall love peace as a means to new wars—and the short peace more than the long.
You I advise not to work, but to fight. You I advise not to peace, but to victory. Let your work be a fight, let your peace be a victory!
One can only be silent and sit peacefully when one hath arrow and bow; otherwise one prateth and quarrelleth. Let your peace be a victory!”
Nietzsche. Find your battles and FIGHT! Losing is not defeat if you fight with everything you have. Sign up for a meet, miss lifts. If you gave your best effort, it’s a success. We know what it’s like now, come back for another and crush it. Go for the PR lift. Miss it. Fight for that damn thing as if hitting that lift was the final act of a dying man. Success comes in improvement, that doesn’t mean winning everything. Shout triumph.
Outside of the gym, go. Have you ever been to the ocean? Why not? Are you waiting for that perfect moment to come? It won’t. There is no perfect time, there is only now.
I challenge you all. If you’re reading this (all 11 of you. I’m up from 9),I want you to sign up for something you’ve never done. A crossfit competition. A weightlifting meet. A painting class. Want help on doing that? Ask. Want someone to go with? Ask. Stop letting fear run things. Be honest with yourself because you can’t rely on anyone else to. Bleak, but it’s how I feel. Why is an important question. Why are you doing it? Why are you not? Figure out your answers. And fight.
Was this a rant? Possibly. It’s still me though. I’m super proud of those that have signed up for the open this year. It’s a completely different environment than anything else I’ve been around. Those that didn’t sign up, stop letting fear control you. Give me your best reason why you didn’t, i’ll point out the fear for you. Face that monster head on. You will win. Rant over. Mainly because I’ve finished my biscuits and gravy. Don’t wait up. I’ll be ahead of you, trying something new.
Frendo Diem – Crush the Day
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